How to make wedding toasts a meaningful part of your wedding reception, and not something you'd rather forget

Wedding toasts can be as simple as a one-line expression of best wishes, and as entertaining as a funny wedding speech followed by a deeply meaningful blessing. Traditionally, the best man toasts the bride and groom as soon as everyone has arrived at the reception and has been served a sparkling beverage. Beyond that, it's up to you. In fact, heartfelt wedding speeches and wedding toasts can be a highlight of your wedding reception.

In these informal times, wedding toasts may be one of the few occasions we have to give more formal remarks. That's why we recommend not just giving remarks "off the cuff." (After all, when's the last time you wore cuffs, guys?) When giving wedding speeches, preparing ahead of time allows the speaker to say more in a short time without rambling, without leaving anything out, and without embarrassing anyone.

Wedding toasts versus wedding speeches

While short wedding toasts can usually be memorized, it's perfectly fine to have note cards for longer wedding speeches. It just shows that you're prepared. Memorize the first line and the toast at the end, and then read as much of the rest as it takes to be comfortable.

So whether it's a best man speech, maid of honor speech, a bride's toast to her groom, a toast to the parents, whatever, make sure your wedding toasts get the attention they deserve. We've linked to some good resources below. Consider tactfully providing them to your wedding party.